Soul Keeping


We honeymooned in Wisconsin, on our wedding night and thereafter, my bride moved toward me romantically, but I withdrew, I would intimate to her that I did now want sex. My mind was conflicted with thoughts of love and thoughts of bitterness; my feelings were split between lack of intimacy and coldness. My face and the tone of my voice could create the effect on her that I wanted without ever being totally open about the deeper recesses of my mind and will. Sin was my anger. Sin was in my deception.
She wanted us to see a counselor. We did for a few times that first year, but I did so quite grudgingly. Marriage in revealing. If only I had eyes to see the sin in just about every area of my life...This dance of withdrawal and approach contiznued on-and-off to this day. But withdrawal was always at least beneath the surface, hibernating until the next painful episode. She knew that we were pushing apart.
This began years of anxiety and depression, of counseling and
journaling, of little steps and painful talks and looking at the ugliness inside myself that I had never known was there.
I was learning about my own need to be seen – and to see myself – as someone other than who I really was. She drew a little diagram that I have to this day, illustrating how certain people view themselves as either the inflated superior being or the worthless empty person no one could love.
Confession really is good for the soul. The soul is healed by confession. I tried to pretend before the church that I was a better husband than I was. Sin divided my will; I wanted closeness, yet I wanted to inflict pain when I felt hurt. As long as I keep pretending, my soul keeps dying. I don't just pretend in front of other people. I pretend with G-d. Sometimes we ask for forgiveness, but we know full well we will go back to the same sin tomorrow. We don't really want forgiveness; we just want to get out of trouble. It would be better to pray truth: “Dear G-d, I sinned yesterday, I sinned again today, and I'm planning to go out and do the same sin tomorrow. In Y'Shuas' name, Amen.
The soul intergrates the will and mind and body. Sin disintegrates them. My will, which was made to rule my body, becomes enslaved to what my body want. I disintegrate my thoughts from the reality. Sin eventually destroys y capacity even for enjoyment, let alone meaning. It distorts my perceptions, alienates my relationships, inflames my desires, and enslaves my will.
The biggest difference between our maturity levels is that I thought I was far more mature than I was. When I think I am the smartest person in the room, I am in the wrong room. I love my wife, except for when she did something that bothered me, something that didn't fit perfectly with my idealized, When she would do something I didn't like – when she disagreed too vehemently or I felt as if she was getting too directive – I would feel something turn cold inside of me. I would distance myself from her by making less eye contact and speak a little coldly.
My busy soul got attached to the wrong things, because I mistake my clutter for life, preoccupied with externals – ceaseless activity, lifestyle, gossip, more money, and very ittle social life. Clutter is maybe the most dangerous result, because it's so subtle, my house is fulled with clutter.
To be able to move forward to wholeness one needs to place one hand on their chest over the heart and asked G-d to bring wholeness to their soul. The soul is what intergrates, what connects, what binds together your will, then your mind (those thoughts, feelings, and desires going on all the time), and then your body (with all of its appetites, habits, and behavior). G-d designed us so that our choices, our thoughts and desires, and our behavior would be in perfect harmony with each other and would be powered by an unbroken connection with G-d, in perfect harmony with Him and with all of His creation. A divided life is a wounded life, and the soul keeps calling us to heal the wound.
We might be living in a body, or in a context of a career or family or community or service, there is a soul that integrated our whole person – will, mind, and body - into an “unceasing spiritual being with an eternal destiny in G-d's great universe – take an interest in this internal life...take a diligent interest and stewardship of this life that G-d has breathed...this soul. I don't know about you, but I need for someone from time to time to wake up the “Maddie in me” and remind me to make sure that I am doing what the Creator of this life tells me to so that the life He gave me will continue to grow.
What one needs to stay spiritually healthy is eliminate hurry out of your life and practice the discipline
of not having to have the last word. Being right is actually a very hard burden t be able to carry gracefully and humbly. One of the hardest things in the world is to be right and not hurt other people with it.
Your eternal destiny is not cosmic retirement; it is to be part of a tremendously creative project, under unimaginable splendid leadership, on an inconceivably vast scale, with ever-increasing cycles of fruitfulness and enjoyment – that is the prophetic vision which 'eye has not seen and ear has not heard.'
My wife.s point of feelings: Why do I get jealous of other pastors who are more successful than I am? Why do I feel a deep, secret loneliness! Why is it that I have a BA. in Biblical studies, graduating with Summa Cum Laude feeling the more I learn the more I find I do not know? I still do not know who I am. But then I remember the most important thing in our lives is not what we do; it's who we become and that is what we will take into eternity. We are an unceasing spiritual being with an eternal destiny in G-d's great universe. How is my soul doing, that's the most important question we should be asking ourselves. Your soul is not just something that lives on after your body dies. It's the most important thing about you. It is your life.
We speak of the eyes being the window to the soul. Scientist say the eyes can reveal our inner thoughts. For instance, when people are doing hard mental work, their pupils dilate, pupils widen when look at beautiful nature pictures. We each have an outer life and an inner one. My outer self is the public, visible me. My inner life is where my secret thoughts and hopes and wishes live. Because my inner life is invisible, it is easy to neglect. No one has direct access to it, so it wins no applause – we need to master our inner life.
Take care of the soul because of this tiny, fragile, vulnerable, precious thing about you called your soul is who you really are. You are a soul made by G-d, made for G-d, and made to need G-d, which means you were not made to be self-sufficient. What is running your life at any given moment is your soul. Not external circumstances, not your thoughts, not your intentions, not even your feelings, but your soul. The soul is that aspect of your whole being that correlates, integrates, and enlivens everything going on in the various dimensions of the self. The soul is the life of human beings.
Your soul connects your thoughts and your sensations and your gratitude and your will and sends a message to your entire being. To understand the parts of the inner life, each one must be healthy and working as G-d intended it to work. If your soul is healthy, no external circumstance can destroy your life. If you try to improve your soul by willpower, you will exhaust yourself and everyone around you. The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace.
Our soul is capacity to integrate all the parts into a single, whole life. The soul seeks harmony, connection, and integration,. The human soul seeks to integrate our will and our mind and our body into an integral person. And the soul seeks to connect us with other people, with creation, and with G-d Himself – who made us to be rooted in Him.

The soul is the deepest part of us, and it is whole person we become. The soul is what integrates our will (intentions), our mind (thoughts and feelings, our values and conscience), and our body (face, language, and actions) into a single life. A soul is healthy – well ordered – when there is harmony between these three entities and G-d's intent for all creation. When you are connected with G-d and other people in life, you have a healthy soul. What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul? Our wold has replaced the word soul with the word self, the more we focus on selves, the more we neglect our souls.

Seeds of Deception

   

The real Y’Shua did not do away with the Sabbath or the Holy Days; He kept those days, as did the early Believers (Matthew 5:17; Luke 4:16; Acts 17:2). Paul wrote that false teachers who preach different doctrines would present themselves as ministers of Y’Shua the Messiah, though Satan would in fact be using them to deceive many (2 Corinthians 11:13–15). The Apostle Peter also foresaw the appearance of false teachers who would "secretly bring in destructive heresies… And many will follow their destructive ways, because of whom the way of truth will be blasphemed"
(2 Peter 2:1–3).
The Apostle Paul cautioned that Messiahians "in the last days" must avoid people "having a form of
G-dliness but denying its power" because such people will lead  
Messiahians astray (2 Timothy 3:1–9). These false teachers will deceive sincere people by using crafty arguments about doctrine, specious philosophical reasoning and emotional appeals to vain human traditions (see Ephesians 4:14; 5:6–7; Colossians 2:8).
Most people today do not know what Scripture prophesies. They do not know that Satan is real, nor do they know how he operates or what his intentions are. All this provides the fertile ground for the seeds of deception to sprout and grow—which is what we are seeing today. This was foretold long ago by the prophet Hosea who wrote, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge" because they have forgotten G-d and rejected His instructions—and we will reap serious consequences as a result (Hosea 4:6).
As the end of this present age approaches, you can avoid being deceived if you take the time to study the Bible and learn what it actually says (2 Timothy 2:15). Scripture exhorts us: "Test all things; hold fast what is good" (1 Thessalonians 5:21). Y’Shua Messiah stated, "If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:31–32). Widespread religious deception is prophesied to occur as the end of the age approaches. If you know what is coming and how it will come, and if you remain alert and look to G-d's word for guidance, you will not be deceived!
 The importance of words we say or hear: Y'Shua said we would be held accountable for every idle word that comes out of our mouths.(Matthew 12:36). Either our words are passwords to access G-d's power to build His kingdom on earth and the purpose He created us for; OR they create roadblocks to His purpose. Many of us talk too much, and our babbling gets us in trouble. The Bible says that restraining our words is wise (Proverbs 10:19). Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; when he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive (Proverbs 17:28).
To settle into who we are in the Messiah, we must learn to speak only the words that are necessary and constructive for the situation. (Titus 2:6), cautions us to be sober-minded. Rather than speak idle words, we must speak from our spirits (our heart) and let our yes mean YES and our no mean NO (James 5:12), speak truth. The fear of G-d can be a very real thing, we need to keep current accounts with the L-rd, according to (1 John 1:7-9). The fear of the L-rd is the beginning of wisdom (Ps. 111:10). We are to love Him and fear Him at the same time. We must take responsibility for our lives because we are not our own. (1 Cor. 6:19-20).
Things that are okay for others to do may not be okay for you, do not be quick to judge. Some people in your life may have to go, and others may need to enter in that you may fulfill your mission on earth. Understand the 'parts' of your inner life, each one must be healthy and working as G-d intended it to work. If your soul is healthy, no external circumstance can destroy your life. The human soul seeks to integrate our will all parts into a single whole life (will, mind, body and soul).
The joy of the L-rd is your strength (Nen. 8:10).
 I hope this helps you overcome the power of manipulation, intimidation and control