Expectations

Meeting someone: Is getting together with a friend and going out Dutch, to a function.
Dating: Dating is having a companion to do things with, occasionally or as often as asked. The male pays for the enjoyment of the female company.
The are usually in the same place at the same time, otherwise why would they date?
Going Steady: liken onto high school. The male gives the girl his class ring, to say they are a team and date no one else. They may be at the same game but not always in the same place.
It can be a temporary situation for usually live carries them in different directions after graduation. People, can become intimate like petting, in cars. And they have their first taste of ‘puppy love.’
Promise Rings: are given out for a variety of reasons, such as promising fathers to wait for marriage, promising this relationship is stepping up to a further commitment to each other like a pre-engagement ring.
It is not binding, just a outward show of making a promise.
Engaged Ring: Being engage is now committing to one day having a future together and they are now officially a couple and not window-shopping.
It is during this time the ‘kinks’ get ironed out and a lot of decision making is done together as to what each one wants in a marriage, what their needs are and how they can be meet. Couples talk about sex, children, houses, money management, honeymoons, and vacations – everything under the sun.
Intimacies grow strong during this time for they are getting to truly know one another, and are willing to please one another.
In a relationship each one what’s or should want to do for the other. Men like to help women in mechanical things around the house, shoveling snow, cutting grass, fixing or maintain cars, help work the land, such as gardening.
Women like to cook their man’s favorite foods to show love, shop for him, for they know what would be most flattering on him, they wear what is attractive to their man that they would be proud to show her off. “Trophy on his arm.:
Intimacy grows to full knowledge as to what would please the other, for they are planning on a live time ‘closeness’.
Marriage: Is a FULL commitment to their spouse, and according to the Father’s plan the spouse is to be number one, before anything else.
The order of priorities is the Father is you’re all in all! Spouse #1, Children #2, Work #3, others #4, placing yourself last. Bottom line you are die to self and live for others and G-d will take care of you, the last shall be first and the first last.
Unfortunate the order gets out of place and work takes top priority, then what ever they can fit into a day falls next. Satan has changed the original plan and has deceived many, the world has adopted it.
Intimacy should be at its peak! The Scripture says ‘do not abstain unless BOTH agree, then come back together quickly so Satan can not attracts you!” That means not when one feels like it and the other does not, for it also says “your body belongs to him and his body belongs to you.”
Bottom line: Even if the plumbing does not work on one, but it does on the other, one’s obligation is to fulfill their partner with joy for in giving you will receive. To get what you want, you must give what the partner wants.
This all will bring about a long happy marriage, one that was truly made in heaven.
Word of advice: ‘DO NOT LET THE SUN GO DOWN UPON YOUR WRATH!’
Eph. 4:26-47 “Neither give place to the devil.”
When anger is allowed to linger, it often eventuates in "wrath" and wrath can result in "malice" (Col. 3: 8). G-d's word teaches that even the circumstance for such conditions as malice are to be eliminated, to make both parties happy.
When we start to fight out of our frustration and say or play stupid games, one just can not think straight, for any differences among them, do furnish some token of reconciliation must be made before the sun set. It is better to settle the dispute right then that tomorrow will bring a good day in understanding of another’s needs.
The making up or settling out one’s mind can be grand and it loosens the hand of Satan on your mate.
Most important:In any stage of life you are in you must allow quality time for your mate. Set a certain time at night to stop whatever you are doing to spend quaility time with your mate. Remember forplay is a all day thing, the time coming together is the climax. Start early enough so you can get quality sleep in sweet bliss.