Leadership Qualities

Confidentiality – When one is personally venting to a leader, he or she must hold that in strictest confidence and help the person work through the issues with out broadcasting what was said during the time of venting. If the receiver can not do that, then they can not be trusted with the important issues that can arise. For example, forwarding something to another to cause strife and dispute would not be healing a situation.
In disputes – A true leader will get all parties concerned together to try to resolve the matter, pointing out the difference between how it was said and what it meant. Everyone can view the same subject in a different way, but a true leader can bring it to harmony and unity.
Fairness - means dealing with others consistently and justly. A leader must check all the facts and hear everyone out before passing judgment. He or she must avoid leaping to conclusions based on incomplete evidence. When people feel they that are being treated fairly, they reward a leader with loyalty and dedication.
Mental toughness - No one can lead without being criticized or without facing discouragement. A potential leader needs a mental toughness, to see things as they are and is willing to pay the price. Leadership creates a certain separation from one's peers, that comes from carrying responsibility. There is loneliness in leadership.
A leader must be able to keep his or her own counsel until the proper time.
Peer respect - It isn't important that people like you. It's important that they respect you. They may like you, but not follow you. If they respect you, they'll follow you, even if perhaps they don't like you. If respect isn't there, that's also visible.
A quality that makes people listen to them. Potential leaders have a "holding court" quality about them. When they speak, people listen. Other people may talk a great deal, but nobody listens to them.
Respecter of persons – A leader must not be a respecter of persons and tend to only his or her own personal sheep. One must care for all the flock that was placed in his or her care, seeing to it that all are well taken care of. A leader will only be given what he can handle. If he chooses one or two, than that is what he will be given; the more you get, the bigger the responsibility. Lk. 15:4 says: “What man of you, having an hundred sheep, if he lose one of them, doth not leave the ninety and nine in the wilderness, and go after that which is lost, until he find it?”
Counseling – In counseling a man should always have his mate with him to avoid innocent temptations that can arise. It may be the only time a woman had a male pay that much attention to her or listen to what she says, and can mis understand Agape love for fleshly love. Plus, having another woman there is comforting for women will pick up faster and have understanding of another woman's mind. If a woman is counseling, it is also good for her to have a witness, so it never gets to who said what. G-d always has a witness, in Old Testament times it had to be two witnesses but some think we are not under Old Testament teachings anymore. The question is did G-d change the rules?
Potential - It's not enough for people to have leadership potential; they must have character and the right setting in which to grow. Before I give someone significant leadership responsibilities, I find it helpful to ask myself several questions:
1. What will this person do to be liked? It's nice to be liked, but as a leader it cannot be the controlling factor. The cause must be the prime motivator.
2. Does this person have a destructive weakness? There are only two things I need to know about myself: my constructive strength and any destructive weakness. A destructive weakness may not show up on a test; it's a character flaw. A destructive weakness may, for example, be an obsession. An obsession controls us; we don't control it. It only grows worse over time.
3. Can I provide this person the environment to succeed? It is so important, particularly in the early days of someone's leadership, that he or she be put into a friendly environment. An environment that threatens our sense of security or well-being splits our concentration from the cause.
Integrity - is the integration of outward actions and inner values. A person of integrity is the same on the outside and on the inside. Such an individual can be trusted because he or she never veers from inner values, even when it might be expeditious to do so. A leader must have the trust of followers and therefore must display integrity. Honest dealings, predictable reactions, well-controlled emotions, and an absence of tantrums and harsh outbursts are all signs of integrity. A leader who is centered in integrity will be more approachable by followers.
Magnanimity - means giving credit where it is due. Conversely, a good leader takes personal responsibility for failures. This sort of reverse magnanimity helps other people feel good about themselves and draws the team closer together. To spread the fame and take the blame is a hallmark of effective leadership.
Humility - Leaders with humility recognize that they are no better or worse than other members of the team. A humble leader is not self-effacing but rather tries to elevate everyone.
Confrontation - is a good thing. It is an interpersonal dynamic that allows accountability to flow between people for their actions, behaviors, attitudes, and patterns of thought. Believers are mandated in Scripture to be a kind of nutrient spike in the lives of other Believers so as to make easy spiritual growth and maturation in each others lives. Leaders are to be ready always to provide counsel in the life of another through the use of Scripture to guide someone along the paths of correction, rebuke, teaching and training in the righteousness of G-d. If you are avoiding confrontation and can not call out sin in the camp, you are not meant to be a leader who can give correction, we are all called to be peacemakers but leaders have a deeper responsibly.
A sense of humor - is vital to relieve tension and boredom, as well as to defuse hostility. Effective leaders know how to use humor to energize followers. Humor is a form of power that provides some control over the environment.
Wherever there is a growing church, you will find people who realize the importance of leadership and pay the price to give it. The gift of leadership is from G-d, but it is our responsibility to polish it, develop it, and improve it through His enabling power.
Leave your environment periodically so you can see your field in a different light.
Pray much - you will find your horizons being lifted and your vision sharpened.