Enablement

As parents we tend to enable our children by trying to fix everything for them. Many are still doing it when the children are in their thirties and forties.
Then comes the ‘blame’ game – it is the ‘systems’ fault, it is the way society is, everyone is picking on them. And the list goes on and on. Pointing fingers at everybody or everything else – people don’t want to take account for their own actions.
‘Spare the rod and spoil the child,’ G-d said. If we would remove our hands and allow the children to learn to make their own choices and be accountable for their own actions, that would be allowing them to grow up to become respectable adults.
I see children ‘young adults’ slowly maturing for they haven’t learned lives lessons nor been prepared for it.
Read about Eli and the hard lesson he had to learn for not training his boys. They were probably good at this or that but even the very worse person has good and bad qualities. Hell is real and paved with good intentions.
Our choice in life determines our destiny. No matter how much pampering one gets, or all the bad choices they make it comes down to individual decisions and for those who cry ‘I wasn’t trained that way, so there for I did not know.’ Some are still trying to point a finger to blame another person for their choices, because they did not seek out correct advice to life’s problems.