Been Should On!

The good book says “to do onto others AS you would kike them to do onto you”, also, “Love your neighbors AS yourself.”
Problem is most of us came from dysfunctional families and have not learned from examples. What ‘nice things’ are to be done or how to love self?
We grow up in a ‘should’ world then we pick up the ‘should’ on ourselves.
Have you been should on?
Have you should on yourself?
Have you should on others?
You should have paid more attention.
You should have made wiser choices.
You should have worked harder.
You should have driven faster, slower, better.
You should have helped your parents better, longer, or sooner.
You should have asked before you leaped.
You should have been a better son or daughter.
You should have thought more of yourself.
I should have been prettier, smarter or wiser.
I should have been taller, shorter or smaller.
I should have smiled more.
I should have talked more or been more quite.
I should know if I am coming or going.
I should have learned to relax and enjoy life.
If I should of, could of, would of.
People we have to stop shoulding on each other and ourselves.
There are way to many ‘should on’, could this be the reason for our low esteem?
We are flapping our wings and going no where fast.
When should we and what should we?
Why even should we?
Which brings us to what are our boundaries we should be keeping?
I was not even sure what a boundary was until I’d step on a land mine and all hell would break loose. Guess I cross someone’s boundary.
At a Agape church in Clear Lake Iowa, a lady preacher demonstrated the first part of her series on boundaries, I was to be there only one night so do not know where she was going with this, but here is where my mind is. She used a whola hoop, placing self in the middle of the hoop and G-d with in you, leaving very little space left.
She stated that only what is with in that circle is your problems and what is out side the circle is someone else's boundary that you are not responsible for.
Think about it – that should free us up tremendously!
Most of us are taking on much more than we were called to do!
We have cross over our boundaries invading someone else’s and should on them.
Get back to your own space and learn to take care of yourself. The G-d with in you will lead and guide you as you run the race of life.
Stepping in on another’s boundary, even with all good intentions has not allowed them to grow and make their own decisions, to reap their own rewards or sew their own seeds.
Most of all they have been should on once to often!
So what are we here for? Definitely not to tell people their faults – I got news for you – they already know them.
We are to encourage people, built up their positives so one day they may love their neighbors AS they love themselves.
Now we got the idea of doing onto others as we would like to have done onto us.
Should on another gives a ‘I can’t do anything right,” the start of low self esteem that grows and grows until it becomes a way of life.
Bottom line: Stop shoulding on others!
Stay within your boundaries!
Allow others to maintain their own circle of priorities and chooses!
Let the G-d within you arise!
Learn to live, love and laugh.